Harville & Helen on the Hallmark, Home and Family television show
Harville & Helen appeared on the Hallmark, Home and Family television show February 7, 2019, hosted by CAMERON MATHISON and DEBBIE MATENOPOULOS.
Getting the Love You Want
The Space Between
Stop Abusing Your Partner with Negativity
During the time our marriage teetered between renewal and divorce, we were visiting a book store when we happened on a book about how astrology affects relationships. Just for fun, we opened to the page where our two astrological signs intersected. Then we read, “You will destroy your relationship unless you stop the unrelenting negative...
Harville & Helen On The Love Intently Podcast With Sophie Kwok
Harville and Helen were guests on episode 201 of the “Love Intently” podcast with Sophie Kwok!
The Golden Rule for Lovers
The time-honored golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” is a profound instruction for relationships in general. But in intimate partnerships, we need to take this admonishment a step further. Our golden rule for couples is: “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.” Instead of...
Love, Lost and Found (from Chapter 1 of our newly revised Getting the Love You Want)
One of the core ideas of Imago Therapy is that the underlying cause of most couples’ discontent lies buried beneath the surface. Superficially, partners argue about household chores, money, parenting styles, their next vacation, or who is spending too much time on their cell phones. Outside of their awareness, however, each one is being compelled...
The Birth of Love
When we fall in love, suddenly we see life in technicolor. We nibble each others’ ears and tell each other everything; our limitations and rigidities melt away. We’re sexier, smarter, funnier, more giving. Now we feel whole, we feel like ourselves, we areconnected. But inevitably–whether we marry or move in together– things just start to go wrong. The...
Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams
Most of us grew up with a fantasy dream relationship, of finding the “perfect person” and living “happily ever after.” But sometimes, real life is somewhat of a letdown. Life gets busy. The relationship feels stale or becomes highly conflicted. There are bills to pay, diapers to change, meals to cook and projects to complete....
