Harville and Helen are co-creators of Safe Conversations®, which helps people learn how to talk without criticism, listen without judgment, and connect beyond differences. Using a simple three-step process, they teach people how to become more present in all of their relationships.
Talking can be the most dangerous thing people do.
Most personal suffering, such as divorce, domestic violence, anxiety, depression, addictions and mental illness, are disorders of unhealthy relationships. Therefore, happiness, success, emotional well-being, and joy are functions of healthy relationships.
Harville and Helen envision a world in which the primary value is relationship and universal equality is a reality. They believe that all persons are created in relationship, become who they are in relationship, and are wounded by and healed in relationship.
They believe that conversation—the verbal and non-verbal exchange of energy and information—determines the quality of relationship. And, the essential quality of a thriving relationship is predictable and reliable safety. Therefore, all conversations must be safe.