Below is a list of fears you may feel in your intimate relationship(s) that interfere with intimacy and rupture connection. Read them carefully and select the one from each category which you feel most applies.I. Attachment* 1A: I sometimes fear not being wanted emotionally and physically and being rejected by my partner. 1B: I sometimes fear being abandoned, and that if I separate, I will lose my relationship and myself. II. Exploration* 2A: I sometimes fear being smothered, absorbed and sometimes humiliated by my partner. 2B: I some times become afraid when my partner is unreliable — being there and then not being there for me. III. Identity* 3A: I sometimes fear being shamed for being who I am, and losing face in my relationship. 3B: I sometimes fear being invisible, and if I assert myself, of losing my partner’s love. IV. Competence* 4A: I sometimes fear being seen as a failure, and that I have to prove my worth or lose my partner's approval and love. 4B: I sometimes fear that if I am seen as aggressive, successful, competent and powerful, I might lose my partner's love and acceptance. V. Concern* 5A: I sometimes fear my partner does not see me as an equal and/or does not like me and does not want to be with me. 5B: I sometimes fear that if I show that I have needs and express them that I will be excluded and rejected by my partner for having them. VI. Intimacy* 6A: I sometimes fear my partner will control my actions, and that I am not free to express myself without being criticized. 6B: I sometimes fear being different from others and my partner, and not having my partner's approval of my uniqueness.
