Harville and Helen are co-creators of RELATIONSHIPS FIRST, which helps people learn how to connect through their differences. Using a simple three-step process called "Safe Conversations," they teach people how to become more present in all of their relationships.
To demonstrate the impact that better communication can have on a large population, they initiated SAFE CONVERSATIONS® as a city-wide experiment to raise the joy index of the entire city of Dallas, Texas.
Talking can be the most dangerous thing people do.
Most personal suffering, such as divorce, domestic violence, anxiety, depression, addictions and mental illness, are disorders of unhealthy relationships. Therefore, happiness, success, emotional well-being, and joy are functions of healthy relationships.
Harville and Helen envision a world in which the primary value is relationship and universal equality is a reality. They believe that all persons are created in relationship, become who they are in relationship, and are wounded by and healed in relationship.
They believe that conversation—the verbal and non-verbal exchange of energy and information—determines the quality of relationship. And, the essential quality of a thriving relationship is predictable and reliable safety. Therefore, all conversations must be safe.